what's new?
Called C, the ex, to wish him a happy birthday - one of those 'do I/don't I' type things that typically ends up with me doing it and then later regretting whatever the it, or whoever the it happened to be;)
It wasn't a long convo but the inevitable Q, "what's new?", came up. After I mumbled on about job news followed by a comment of 'everything else is same old same old", his response to the same Q was less informative but all the more interesting.
He commented how it's hard to describe what's new during a brief interaction when nothing surface is really different, yet given some time to examine and talk, the nuances and minute shifts seem to unfold.
This struck a chord with me. Often when speaking with friends I haven't seen/talked to in a while, I'm always a bit bothered by my response 'not much, same old same old' because there isn't really anything material/concrete seemingly worth giving comment to -
yet inside something never sits right with me when I utter those words.
Because there is a lot new.
No, I don't have a new car, new home, new job, new pet, my family is the same and so are most of the people around me, but since finally getting hit over the head by reality last year, so much is always new, ever changing and different. And even when i'm cycling back through old patterns/feelings and emotions, it's still new because my interaction with those feelings is completely different.
I guess the 'what's new' chats about new homes, relationships, cars, pets, babies, jobs, family are necessary, but after you've heard about the size of the lot, number of bedrooms or what they're going to do to the backyard - it's funny how often the discussion ends there, because really, it's the reasons, reactions and emotions behind these new things that is most interesting and reflective of the real changes within.
It wasn't a long convo but the inevitable Q, "what's new?", came up. After I mumbled on about job news followed by a comment of 'everything else is same old same old", his response to the same Q was less informative but all the more interesting.
He commented how it's hard to describe what's new during a brief interaction when nothing surface is really different, yet given some time to examine and talk, the nuances and minute shifts seem to unfold.
This struck a chord with me. Often when speaking with friends I haven't seen/talked to in a while, I'm always a bit bothered by my response 'not much, same old same old' because there isn't really anything material/concrete seemingly worth giving comment to -
yet inside something never sits right with me when I utter those words.
Because there is a lot new.
No, I don't have a new car, new home, new job, new pet, my family is the same and so are most of the people around me, but since finally getting hit over the head by reality last year, so much is always new, ever changing and different. And even when i'm cycling back through old patterns/feelings and emotions, it's still new because my interaction with those feelings is completely different.
I guess the 'what's new' chats about new homes, relationships, cars, pets, babies, jobs, family are necessary, but after you've heard about the size of the lot, number of bedrooms or what they're going to do to the backyard - it's funny how often the discussion ends there, because really, it's the reasons, reactions and emotions behind these new things that is most interesting and reflective of the real changes within.
posted by two steps at 12:44 PM
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